Infertillity
If like me, you have suffered from in-fertility, you will understand how frustrating it can be. If on the other hand you have been gifted with children, appreciate what you have.
I was diagnosed at a young age with P.O.S, (Polysistic Ovarian Syndrome), which affects a large population of women.
Your Ovaries get covered in cysts, some small some as large as grapefruits. Apart from the pain that this condition causes, there is also a hormone imbalance, which can cause excess hair growth and increased libido.
Sometimes the hormone imbalance can be controlled with Oestrogen pills or injections, which are fine, until you want to start a family.
I was told that my chances of having children were slim to none, because of the extent of scarring on my ovaries. I had a hard time accepting this, and it took years for the initial hurt to be replaced by something else.
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The Impossible
I threw myself into animal rescue and I met my partner, who had 4 children from before, it helped to be able to concentrate on something other than my inability to have children. Much to my disbelief, I discovered that I was pregnant.
So to all you childless couples out there, there is hope, just do not try too hard, let it happen when it should. (I know thats easy for me to say).
The Saga
After finding out that I was pregnant, I panicked, I just did not know what to do.
I tried to believe that the test was just tricking me, and ended up having 4 test's, done both by home testing kits, chemists and doctors before I would believe it.
At seven weeks, I started to bleed, and I was rushed in with expected ectopic pregnancy, and then a threatened miscarriage. All through this I would not let myself believe that I would have a child. It served a better purpose for me, to believe the worst, when I got the news I was safe to go home I jumped at the chance.
All through the rest of my pregnancy all went well, I checked with doctors and midwife's as I was due to visit my family in Norway in my 6th month of pregnancy, I was given the all clear. Apart from getting a little chill, and a few niggles, I believed all was well.
I arrived back in the UK, and had 4 days at home before I had another bleed, I was taken to hospital, attached to the monitors and after sent home again, and told to rest.
I awoke one morning at just before 4am, I sat up in bed, and I had a real strange sensation, I called my midwife and she arrived to declare I was in labour, and I had to get to Hospital. My partner, who I woke up, and when told the news, replied "you cant be, its not due yet".
I spent a long time in labour, 49 hours and 44 minutes to be exact.
Because I had not had time to learn anything of premature babies, It became something unreal and terrifying.
When he was born, he was 11 weeks premature, he weighed in at 2lb 9oz or 1.163k, when he came home he was just over 5lb, and only 9 days past his original due date.
He has long-term problems; he has physio every month by the professionals, and physio with me each day. He is such a happy baby; it is incredible to think we almost did not have him. 27th January 2007, Wow my little boy is growing up, he does have quite a few difficulties, but like anything in life you just have to learn to take the best fromm any situation. Very sadly and tragically Kaj's dad passed away from a massive heart-attack in October 06, aged only 42, and this has been a very traumatic time for all. Kaj was 7 just 3 weeks after his fathers death, and although he does not vocalise his loss, its very evident in his behaviour, meanwhile I am trying to be Mom & Dad and try to make the best future for Kaj even after being left in a very dire financial situation. December 2011, Its been 5 years since the loss of Kaj's dad. Life has had its ups and downs in the last few years. Kaj has lost out so much not having a male figure around, but he is such a happy gentle child most people who meet him remark on how lovely and polite he is.
Moms E-mail address
vikingice@worldonline.co.uk
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